At best, he isn’t a team player

At worst, there’s something else going on that I won’t speculate on. Either way, he doesn’t respect his wife, IMO. But bottom line – if you value and want to stay in this marriage, you NEED counseling NOW. If you don’t want to stay in the marriage, cut your losses as soon as you can. Only YOU can make that decision. Otherwise, he may crash and drag you down with him.